How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others in Business
I did it again. I found myself duel screening again. You know, when you have two windows side by side, one window with your website and the other window of a website of someone you admire.
The layout is beautiful. The words are delicious. Everything is perfectly put together like a cuddly puppy and all you want to do is hug, squeeze, and take king tubby home with you.
But you can’t claim him because this adorable squishy bulldog face belongs to your boyfriend’s best friend’s girlfriend. And she will shank anyone who even thinks of taking King Tubmaster Flex.
As much as you try to change your website around to match theirs, it just doesn’t feel right… Why? Because that energy is not yours boo!
The only way you will fall in love with your site, or social media page is by claiming yourself and sharing it for all the world to see. Soon enough, you’ll have your very own chubby rolled, drooly bulldog of your own to love forever.
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Three Things To Do When You Have Comparison-Itis
Make a list of what you admire about the person
Look there’s a reason why you’re attracted to them, and sometimes we need to sit back and evaluate what’s really happening and why we’re drawn to a person, profile or aesthetic. What does it say about you?
Analyze if your sentiments are coming from a place of judgment of a place of envy.
If it’s from a place of judgment, what are you judging about them? Is it the way that they are so free on their social media? Are the loud and proud? Whatever is it, write down everything! Now, journal if you’ve ever been shamed in your life for acting the same way? Or were you told that’s not the way a person acts - maybe it was your mother, friends, or a professor?
If it’s a place of envy, try to see this person or their website an inspiration. This is your “expander,” a term coined by Lacy Phillips from the ToBeMagnetic.com. This person is someone sent to you from the universe to show you what’s possible when you continue to step into your worth and be your truest form of self.
If you’re starting to feel like you want to copy everything about them, take a break from their feed, website, whatever and begin to cultivate your own sense of self and identity in your projects.
Need help doing this? I highly recommend joining The Pathway, the monthly membership from ToBeMagnetic.com that teaches you how to manifest and uncover your shadows and reparent any childhood trauma that pulled you away from your authentic self.
Most Importantly Make a list of all of your Accomplishments
Girlfriend, you need to stop discounting how far you’ve come. You are taking huge strides forward. Celebrate that you’ve posted on Insta for five days straight. Dance party because you finally have a blog! Make yourself a beautiful tea and sit in the sun because you actually shared what you’re passionate about!
Nothing is perfect. We’re not perfect. But the steps we take are all apart of the journey. Recognize all of the small moments that brought you here - the comfortable and the uncomfortable were all lessons to show you what you’re capable of and what is possible for you.
You’ve grown so much and when you sit back and truly appreciate that you’re going to feel like a badass because you are! It’s so easy to see the mistakes (that are really uncomfortable lessons) because that’s what we’re taught to see in society. Fuck that shit.
Praise yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back. Love yourself more because you’re still moving forward.
Bonus: Take Action
If you’re feeling stuck I want you to double down on yourself. Which means, do whatever you do to feel like the most amazing version of yourself.
Wear that dress, go get that yummy golden milk from your favorite coffee shop, watch your favorite movie, call your BFF and recite the lines from Plus One. And just laugh.
Next, I want you to go live on Facebook or Insta or both - High Vibe Entrepreneur’s Choice - and talk about this feeling of feeling jealous or envious and how you’re moving forward!
What you don’t own about yourself owns you.
That means you don’t have to own any shame. You don’t have to feel burdened by anything. And when you are this honest, you’ll notice people connecting and they will most likely say that’s exactly what they needed to hear - and that’s fucking powerful.
All right friends, tell me below, how have you overcome comparison-itis? And I double-dog dare you to share your business crush!
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